Improve your relationships
Visualization exercises may seem daunting at first, but any difficulties usually have more to do with our approach, our worry that we’re not doing it “right,” than with the technique itself. Essentially, we’re just replacing the breath with a mental image. And when our mind wanders off or we get distracted by a thought or feeling, we gently bring our attention back to that image. So don’t overthink it!
This visualization exercise helps create conditions in the mind for
happier, healthier relationships.
Start by sitting comfortably, and taking a few deep breaths in through the nose, and out through the mouth. After a few breaths, gently close eyes and allow the breath to return to its natural rhythm. Once you’re settled in, scan down the body from head to toe, getting a sense of how the body feels, the underlying mood. Be clear about your intention for doing this exercise, and how by doing it you can potentially improve the lives of those around you. Rest the mind on wherever you feel the rise and fall of the breath most strongly.
Imagine now a pinprick of light, like a speck of sunlight, in the middle of the body. At the same time, remember a time when you’ve done something or said something to another person that’s really been appreciated. Remember how that person looked, or what they said, and be reminded of that feeling, which was the result of an act of kindness. As you recall the feeling, that speck of sunlight begins expanding in the body, moving outward in every direction, filling the body with qualities of warmth, light, and spaciousness.
Gently let go of the act of kindness and just be present with that visualization, as if it’s happening on its own, and you’re just watching it in the mind as it happens — watching the spacious, warm, bright awareness expanding. When it feels like it’s reached every part of the body, let go of the image, and just allow the mind rest in that space, and do whatever it wants to do, for about 10 seconds. Then gently bring the attention back to the physical space around you. Open the eyes, pausing to appreciate the feeling.
Feel more balanced
This visualization exercise can help you feel more centered, more grounded, and bring you back to that place when you’re feeling overwhelmed. For this one, you’ll imagine a steady stream of “liquid sunlight” flowing down from the top of the head with all the qualities you’d imagine summer sunlight to have: warmth, spaciousness, clarity. (Remember, don’t overthink it!)
Start by sitting comfortably and taking a few deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Gently close the eyes and feel the weight of the body in the chair, settling in to physical senses. Scan down through the body, noticing how the body feels. Is there a sense of balance or imbalance? Are you a little tense or tight? Rest the mind on the feeling of the breath.
As you follow the breath, imagine that stream of warm liquid sunlight above your head flowing down into the body, filling it up almost as if it were a vase, starting at the bottom.
Go at your own pace — whatever feels comfortable. Imagine the sunlight moving up through the legs, past the waist, into the upper part of the body. As the sunlight fills the body, it creates a feeling of comfort, of ease, dissolving any tension, leaving behind a relaxed, balanced quality. It continues up toward the neck, the face, the head. When it gets to the very top of the head, it continues to flow, continuing to replenish both the body and the mind. Just allow the mind to rest in that space, letting it do whatever it wants. Feel a sense of the mind resting in that very spacious, light, warm quality.
Gently bring the attention back to the body, to the weight of the body on the chair, noticing any sounds, bringing the mind back into the space around you. Open the eyes, and take a moment before moving on with your day. Be aware of how you feel right now, and appreciate what it feels like to take a bit of time out for yourself.
The beauty of these mindfulness meditation exercises is that they require very little effort, and you can do them pretty much anytime, and anywhere. And just as with physical fitness, the more you train the mind through practice and exercise to be present, and not reactive, the better you’ll be able to meet life’s challenges head-on.