Therapy for anger management: Finding calm beneath the surface

Anger management therapy won't eliminate all your angry emotions. But seeking anger management therapy enables you to understand where your anger comes from and how you can respond to it in healthier ways. In therapy, you can start to reframe your anger so it's something you understand instead of fear. The goal isn't to repress your anger, but to constructively transform anger so it doesn't hurt your relationships, mental health, and life.

Effective therapy for anger management focuses on:

• Finding triggers, like feeling dismissed or being overwhelmed
• Learning coping skills that create a safe space between stimulus and reaction, that allow you to let go of your anger
• Channeling angry energy without harming yourself or others

The American Psychological Association (APA) links unmanaged anger to strained relationships, professional difficulties, and lower quality of life. Recognizing these patterns and situations is critical to avoiding the long-term consequences of anger. However, it can be difficult to understand at what point anger crosses into an unhealthy place.

You might seek therapy for anger issues if you notice:

• You have frequent emotional outbursts
• Your episodes of irritability are dominating your days
• You feel regret, guilt, and embarrassment about your anger
• You have recurring conflicts with loved ones or professional colleagues
• You're physically exhausted
• You have tension headaches or elevated blood pressure from chronic stress and anger

Therapy for anger management works. Treatment helps you reduce flare-ups and can lay a foundation for emotional stability and resilience to better manage your mental health. Though approaches differ, most therapies address the common challenges of anger management.

• Self-awareness: Therapy can help you identify the beliefs and triggers that fuel your anger. For example, it might be frustration that's masking feelings of shame.
• Self-regulation skills: You'll learn effective coping tools, such as breathing techniques, guided relaxation, and other stress management skills, to prevent your anger from escalating.
• Communication tools: When you can be assertive without aggression, you can express your needs and boundaries empathetically, without creating conflict.
• Cognitive reframing: You'll learn to challenge unhelpful and unhealthy assumptions like "anger makes me strong" or "I have to yell to be heard."

Therapy isn't a one-size-fits-all solution for dealing with anger. Different approaches may address various needs and depend on the situation at hand. Learn about the different types of therapy here:

• Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): Teaches you to identify and change negative thought patterns. It's an evidence-based and research-backed approach to anger management.
• Mindfulness-based therapy: Encourages non-judgmental awareness of emotions and helps you manage anger in the moment. Studies show that mindfulness can significantly reduce anger, physical aggression, and hostility.
• Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT): Originally developed for borderline personality disorder, DBT-informed care can also help you manage intense anger. Using a combined individual therapy and group therapy approach, you'll gain tools that help you improve emotional regulation. Research suggests that DBT-informed care can effectively reduce dysregulated anger.
• Psychodynamic therapy: Examines how past experiences might contribute to your anger. Research shows that psychodynamic therapy can reduce anger and aggressive behavior by replacing it with positive intentions.

Progress in anger therapy looks different for each person. Common indications that treatment is working include:

• You start pausing before reacting
• Your emotional vocabulary expands beyond "angry," so you can express other emotions like disappointment, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed
• The frequency and intensity of angry episodes are reduced
• You start building stronger and more respectful connections, both at home and at work

Seeking therapy and treatment is a sign of strength. It shows your courage and commitment to growth when asking for help. It's symbolic of your dedication to growing personally and overcoming challenges. If you're thinking about starting therapy for anger, the following practical tips will help you navigate the process:

• Find a licensed therapist who specifically deals with anger management, emotional regulation, or conflict resolution.
• Decide whether you want to use individual, group, or online therapy (or a combination of these)
• It's OK to start small. Schedule one consultation to see if a therapist feels like a good fit.

Headspace ensures access to licensed therapists who specialize in anger management. In addition to therapy, guided meditations for anger and breathing exercises can help you respond more calmly when you're angry. Our in-app mental health tools will help you find what you need in your everyday moments. With the right guidance, you can shift anger from a source of shame to a powerful motivator where you use boundaries and deep self-awareness to nurture your relationships.

Anger doesn't have to control your life or how you connect with people. With tools and practice through therapy for anger management, you can learn to stay calm, even in the most frustrating moments of your life. Learn more about online therapy from Headspace today.

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