Coffee! Always coffee.
Snooze (about five times), do a little yoga (usually sharing my mat with our dog, Buckwheat, who also likes to do downward dog in the morning), sit down with coffee and meditate, journal and walk Buckwheat.
All of the things that didn’t get done that day. Not having enough time.
Be patient with yourself and be open to the process. Every day is different, even when you’ve been doing it awhile.
In the morning, before the day starts, curled up in a chair.
Some days, especially when I wake up later than I planned, my mind turns on and immediately starts thinking about the day and what needs to get done and how I’m going to squeeze it all in. Other days, it’s pretty sleepy and quiet.
I have clarity and space.
I think Acceptance has been my favorite so far. I find that I often resist against what is because, for whatever reason, it’s not how I think it should be. Maybe it’s part of being a perfectionist? A year and a half ago, my husband and I opened our bike shop + coffee shop, The Wheelhouse, and I had just started Pluck, my design firm, all while still acting. Doing all of those things is a lot and it really forced me to make a conscious decision: I could keep doing all the things I loved to the best of my ability and let that be good enough or I could give something up and, let’s be honest, still not be perfect at what was left. What I loved about Acceptance was it helped me check in with myself in a really gentle way and create space for the ‘shoulds’ I was fighting and to give myself grace instead.
Staying present and breathing.
My husband, Chase, and Buckwheat. It’s like living with real live Muppets (Chase would proudly admit to that, by the way). They’re both so happy and animated and have so much personality, they can be doing the most normal, boring thing and I think it’s hilarious.
A friend took hours out of her Sunday afternoon to sit down and teach me how to use my camera.
My husband. We actually met on Match.com right before all the dating apps came about and it became super normal. I went on as a joke to myself—I had a free trial so I was going to stay on for a month, have a whole bunch of bad dates, get some good stories and remind myself why I liked being single. Three days in, Chase sent me a message and totally caught me by surprise. We got married two years ago and I definitely got some great stories, but I guess the joke was on me.
Oh, my—yes! So many. The one that stands out the most right now is starting The Wheelhouse. Both Chase and I struggled to find our place here in LA, somewhere we felt like we belonged. We started the shop because it was the place in the world we were looking for. It’s been extraordinarily hard and also extraordinarily amazing. It’s taught us a lot about ourselves that I don’t think we would have known otherwise. There have been so many times and places where we could have stopped or said no or played it safe, but we’ve continued to say yes and leap with faith and as a result the shop, and our lives, have grown into something much bigger and cooler than we ever would have imagined. The other day, we were driving to work and we passed three people on bicycles we had put them on. You can get so lost in the hardness and the details and the day-to-day of what a business requires, but to see three people navigating the world differently because of something we built … it was incredible.
Be open. The best things, what will probably end up being your favorite things, are very rarely what you planned for.