Thinking Flexibly

This is 12, yeah? This is session 12, sorry. 12, take one. I was so stressed out about this soup. This soup didn't come out how it was supposed to come out, it was gonna be too spicy, no one was gonna eat it. Am I actually deluding myself that I think I have talent and I really don't? You know, my imposter syndrome came up big time. Have you ever let your mind spiral about something, only to find out later that there was nothing to worry about? All of these really stressful thoughts about soup on a Sunday morning. It's easy to get wrapped up in our automatic thoughts, but if you really break them down, you might realize that they often don't make a lot of sense. Today, we'll talk about how to find errors in our thinking and reframe our thoughts. Reframing our thoughts is a tool that we oftentimes can use when our thinking can take us to places that maybe aren't based in reality, and we call these thinking traps. As you're identifying these thinking traps in your own thinking, it can be helpful to engage in checking the facts. Is what I'm thinking true to what's actually happening? Jumping to the worst conclusion is something that I do quite a bit When I deal with not being on time. You're late, they're gonna call you out, they're gonna make a big thing about it, they're gonna, you know, give you some type of reprimand or some type of consequence, and it just goes down from there. I've found that there's times where my friends won't respond for an extended period of time, and then I can start to spiral of, they're not responding to me. Are they mad at me, did I do something wrong? Am I a bad friend? And then I start spiraling down that list of the possibilities of, why isn't my friend responding to a simple text? So when we check the reality of the situation, we can then use that to temper our feelings and our responses. There are times where it actually is based in reality and our thinking can actually serve us, but there are times where maybe it doesn't serve us quite so well. We can see whether or not we are jumping to somewhat worst case scenario without there actually being any factual evidence to support it. I was definitely jumping to conclusions, but also to the worst conclusion. I didn't even taste this soup properly. Someone is mad at me. I did something wrong. I always jump to the worst case scenario. It wasn't even close to what you just envisioned in your head. Am I assuming that they're gonna respond in a certain kind of a way based on reality of my reactions and my relationships with these people, or have I gone off base? I felt a little bit afraid, a little bit angry of, what did I do wrong? My friend...