Going Through a Tough Transition? Listen To This.

(air whooshes) (computer mouse clicks) (serene music) ♪ Headspace Studios ♪ (calm music) Greeting, greetings, everyone, and welcome to "Radio Headspace." I'm Kessonga, and it's a wonderful Wednesday. So, for today's episode, I wanted to revisit my Mindful Music segment. This is where I select a snippet of lyrics from a certain song, and then I discuss what the lyrics in the song means to me. And as you probably know or can imagine, there's usually a life lesson involved and/or a mention of mindfulness. (chuckles) And as I always say, this is my personal interpretation that you may or may not agree with, and that's okay, of course. But all the same, I want you to open your mind and perspective just a bit and see what comes up for you. Okay, so here are today's lyrics. "I can't be bothered making conversation with the friends that I don't know." So, as I stated at the end of yesterday's episode, I wanted to talk about the other end of the spectrum in regards to friendship, and that's when friendships change or end altogether, and that's the essence that I feel when I hear these lyrics. For me, I get a sense that this person no longer has the same connection with the friends that he once knew, and there's a sense of frustration or even anger or resentment that's present. "I can't be bothered making conversation with the friends that I don't know." I'm reminded of a client that I once had when I was practicing psychotherapy. This client, let's call him Kwame, was having a hard time dealing with the changes his friendships were going through. Kwame was in his early 30s, as were most of his friends, and he had kind of, like, a little crew of friends, about six of them, and they were comprised of both men and women. Well, little by little, things started to change. A couple of them got married, a couple more moved away for graduate school and for work, and then a couple more actually had children. All in all, things changed drastically with the crew's friendship dynamics, and according to Kwame, it felt like the changes happened overnight, super rapidly. Next thing Kwame knew, he was all alone, or he no longer felt the same connection that he once had with his crew. He stated that he felt lost and abandoned, angry and resentful. I can imagine today's lyrics pertained at least a little bit to how Kwame was feeling. "I can't be bothered making conversation with the friends that I don't know." What made matters worse is that when Kwame tried to put himself out there and make new friends, he found it extremely difficult. It either felt forced or it felt like, as he stated, themed friendships, like work friends or gym friends, but not the authentic and deep friendship he once had with his crew. So, being that I was the therapist here, I said to Kwame what...