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PodcastComparing Yourself to Others, with Kessonga

Comparing Yourself to Others, with Kessonga

Kessonga and Robin answer questions about how not to compare yourself to others on social media, being present in relationships, and recommended books for dealing with change.

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(gentle bright music) Headspace Studio. Hi, folks. Robin here. And I am just letting you know that we are on a little Headspace vacation at the moment. Don't worry, we are not leaving you. Instead, we are sharing a few of our favorite episodes and we will be back on Tuesday, September 12th, kicking things off with a back-to-school mindful parenting episode. Woo! (gentle upbeat music) Have you ever wished you had a wise meditation teacher on speed dial? Someone you can call after a long day. Someone you could lean on for their advice. Someone to listen and help you to see things differently. Welcome to "Dear Headspace". (gentle upbeat music) Hello, everyone. We are back with another episode of "Dear Headspace", a podcast where each week I sit down with a Headspace meditation teacher and we answer your questions. I'm Robin Hopkins and I am here with Headspace Meditation teacher extraordinaire, Kessonga. Thank you for the extraordinaire part. That felt really nice. It should be on your business cards if it's not already. I'm just saying. (Kessonga chuckles) It's not every day you're called extraordinary. So I thoroughly appreciate that. But no, it's lovely to be here, Robin. All right, we have got questions we gotta answer, Kessonga. Today we are gonna be talking about how to manage change, how to remain present in your relationship and comparing yourself to others on social media. Okay. Here we go. Sounds exciting. Sounds exciting. Question number one. (gentle bright music) Hi, I'm Ari Sandeep. I'm from India. The question that I have is that how do you not compare yourself to other people on social media? For example, like you'd see them just having fun or just having lots of friends that they have to go out with and you compare your life with those stories or posts as they are such. Or probably just comparing your work, maybe based on the number of likes you're receiving and getting into this vicious cycle where you're constantly seeking out for external validation through social media. So it would be great if you could give an advice as to how not to get affected with such things, that would be great. Thank you. I hope you have a great day. (gentle bright music) Uh-hmm. Hmm, that is such a wonderful question, right? Wow, what a great question. Yeah, I think that question is so, so relevant today. So just a couple of, I guess, social media tips if you will. First off, we all can relate to it, right? Yes, yes. 'Cause I think that's the nature of social media. You just naturally compare yourself. So before you even get on to social media, as soon as you're about to, just kind of like what we did today, just setting that intention. Setting what is my intention for getting onto social media? What do I want, right? What am I aware of? Okay, so I'm about to go on Instagram. I use Instagram 'cause...


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About your teachers

  • A former Buddhist monk, Andy has guided people in meditation and mindfulness for 20 years. In his mission to make these practices accessible to all, he co-created the Headspace app in 2010.

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  • Eve is a mindfulness teacher, overseeing Headspace’s meditation curriculum. She is passionate about sharing meditation to help others feel less stressed and experience more compassion in their lives.

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  • As a meditation teacher, Dora encourages others to live, breathe, and be with the fullness of their experiences. She loves meditation’s power to create community and bring clarity to people’s minds.

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  • Kessonga has been an acupuncturists, therapist, and meditation teacher, working to bring mindfulness to the diverse populations of the world.

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  • Rosie Acosta has studied yoga and mindfulness for more than 20 years and taught for over a decade. Rosie’s mission is to help others overcome adversity and experience radical love.

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