Andy's Guide to Relationships - A Different Point of View... Guide 4
So the date went well. Or did it? Before you know it the mind is back into overdrive. Maybe they’ll call, maybe they won’t. Maybe you should call them, maybe it’s too soon. You wish you hadn’t been so reckless on a first date, you wish you had given way to restraint and let yourself go. One hour goes by, you look at your watch. Two hours, you look again. A day goes by. No word. It’s all over, they can’t possibly like you.
Now at this stage, regardless of whether the phone eventually rings or not, getting caught up in this relentless pattern of doubt, anxiety, hope and fear is exhausting. It’s also completely unnecessary, assuming you know how to step back from it all. By training the mind you can begin to witness thoughts from a place of awareness. This means there is more space around them, they no longer control you or intimidate you, and you have the peace of mind to be ok with the outcome no matter what it might be.
And yeah... of course it’s normal to still hope for the best nonetheless.