Andy's Guide to Relationships - A Different Point of View... Guide 6
Oh, so this is what a relationship feels like! Or maybe it’s not, you begin to think. Maybe what you were feeling before is what a real relationship should feel like and, maybe, it feels like this now simply because this isn’t the right person for you after all. Then what if they are the right person and you just never got far enough in any relationship to know what that feels like?
The mind becomes like a dog with a bone. It likes what it has now, but it prefers the jacked-up excitement of the early days and misses the stimulation. Rather than being present and enjoying this unique time, instead the un-trained mind begins to project forwards, imagining a life time of boredom, void of any fun, lust or excitement. Needless to say, this is the mind spiralling out of control and, more often than not, it has little to do with reality.
The truth is, the relationship doesn’t even really begin until the whirlwind of excitement has passed. The only thing that detracts from this phase is our tendency to compare with the past and our predilection for projecting scenarios for the future.