Often, how we think about ourselves is framed by how we imagine other people think about us, or by comparing ourselves to others. In recent years this has been hugely magnified by the role social media plays in our lives.

But have you ever wondered how other people are using social media? If what they post is real, or how often they’re checking for likes? What happens if you choose to live without any social media at all?

I was in New York City this week, a place full of individuals who rely on social media to make a name for themselves, often blurring the personal and the professional, meshing perception and reality.

I spoke to an advertising director, a drag queen, a blogger, a runner, and a TV host, to find out how social media affects the way they think about themselves, and then I came back to California to talk to Radio Headspace’s Shannon about life after social media.